I think I'm a tad bit obsessed, with an overwhelming feeling, of wanting another baby. Mike's not on board yet, so the plan is nill and void for the time being. But, it makes me wonder . . . do all mom's get at least a little tinge of desire to have another little one after a year?
What is it? Is it that things suddenly become pretty manageable by a child's first birthday, and since women thrive in creating calm out of chaos, they are ready to take more on? Is it because we see the miracle before us and just don't want those magical firsts to end so quickly? Is it because we look at our little baby and know that his life isn't complete without a sibling to share in the turmoil and joys? I'm not sure if it's any of that or all the above.
Realistically, there is no money or space for another baby right now. But think about it - our grandmothers used dresser drawers as cribs when they lacked money, and people got by on a lot less than what we have now. You make do. The truth is, there is never a right time when you are going to feel like you have it all together and can provide 100% of what you wish for your child. That day would come at 70 years old, and having babies at 70 though not impossible these days, is just down right creepy.
What I learned today: Maybe there is a biological alarm clock that starts ringing after your child's first birthday. Maybe only the woman can hear it and the man is oblivious until the second birthday approaches or he gets tired of a nagging wife? I hope there is a magical moment when Mike and I say "let's add to our family" but until then, I need to stop this damn clock ticking in head. Any advice?
3 comments:
You're not obsessed. I think it's natural. Turning 1 is such a huge deal and with it comes that independence (which is great!) but also the loss of the baby (which can break your heart a little.) We have this conversation all of the time. Both of us want more (if it were up to Dad we'd already have 4...) but we're trying to be realistic around the move, unpacking, bills, etc. I hear you. There is never a "good" time in that there is always something going on and a to-do list to finish. But when the time is right for Jackson to become a big brother it will just feel so natural and perfect. And you're right -- you just make it work whenever/however!
The time is never right, but it's ALWAYS right. You'll know when that is.
if you are having those feelings again and need it to pass, come spend a weekend with these 2 terrors and it will be the best birth control EVER... lol.. Jk.. kinda. you;ll know when it is right and time...
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